7 Ways To Tell If You Are Good At Making Love

1. You feel connected to your partner

Research by s*xologists seeking to answer the question, “What makes good s*x?” has shown that the answer lies not in any particular technique but in two people feeling a sense of connection together.

Good sex is not just a physical experience but rather one that emphasises the core quality of it being a shared, meaningful experience. So to be good in bed, the very first step is to understand that dimension of connecting with your partner beyond the physical level.Couples who study tantric s*x, karezza and other systems of mind-body-spirit s*xual connection devote themselves to connecting beyond the physical. Many people are turning to trying it out and seeing the benefits in their relationship blossom.

2. You’re confident

Other fundamental qualities that make you a great lover include being confident about yourself, having a positive body image, and feeling s*xy. If you feel greater about your sexy self it not only enhances your physical libido, but it allows you to get lost in the sexual experience, become intensely immersed in it, and be swept away in the pleasure. This is a great lover, the one who isn’t self conscious and detached from the experience.

3. You’re open to change in the bedroom

A good lover uses their most important erotic organ which isn’t the one between the legs, but the one between your ears. Using your brain for creativity, imagination and keeping an open mind for trying new things also will make you a good lover your whole life. Your body will change, your partners may change, your s*xual response and health will change. So if you remain open to change in your sexual expression you’ll be guaranteed to be a creative, dynamic lover. 

4. You listen to your partner

Listening is a vital quality of being a good lover, as is being attentive, generous or at least unselfish. S*x is a shared experience, so paying attention to your partners needs, including as their desires change too is more important than anything other thing that you do between the sheets. Without good communication you can’t possibly be a great lover.

5. You don’t rush things

Like with most things in life, it you pay attention to detail, and take your time, the result will be far superior than if you rush around blindly. While you wouldn’t think it, being thorough is a definitely quality of a master class lover. See things through from start to finish, if you catch my drift.

 6. You welcome the opportunity to have s*x

A good balance between spontaneity and just doing it is important! Don’t forget the plain mathematics of good sex: saying yes more than no. Being approachable by your partner, initiating nookie yourself, and being eager more often than refusing is a pretty simple but often overlooked quality of being great s*xually.

7. You’re playful in bed

S*x is our adult recreation – not just procreation. This is your adult playtime to feel good with each other and enjoy every bit of one another. It doesn’t have to be serious or harried (sometimes that’s okay too). If you want to be good in bed, be playful – show your enjoyment!

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7 things couples should never forget about relationships

A wonderful and long-lasting relationship consists of many factors and rules which has been strictly kept by both parties in other for the relationship to thrive.

This knowledge comes only with experience between committed couples who know what is important for relationship goals to be achieved.

Jennifer Houston of Womanitely  lists 7 important things couples should know for a long-lasing relationship.

1. Kindness makes miracles: Nowadays, the power of kindness is known to a limited number of people. Life is so busy that we forget to be kind in different situations. It doesn’t take much effort to be kinder, just develop a habit of being that way. If you make a decision to be kinder, you will notice how powerful such feature of character as kindness is. It has a great set of benefits which can make your relationship healthier and stronger.
2. Everyone faces bad days: It’s not necessary to treat your boyfriend’s bad mood as something personal against you. Everyone should know that all people face bad days and get into complicated situations. You may have stresses in different spheres of life. You cannot be always involved in your partner’s affair and it is hard to guess what has happened. Just allow your partner to fight these difficulties and handle the overall situation. Don’t take it personally.
3. Don’t quarrel in public: It is true that strong and lasting relationship usually include disagreements at one time or another. Many couples find it a constituent part of any relationship. But it doesn’t mean that you should sort out your relationship in the public. Sure, you can make the air blue if necessary. But you will look too impulsive and hysterical that is the high way to obtain negative reputation. Don’t wash your dirty linen in public. If you have disagreements, try to solve them at home.
4. Forgiveness is the core thing: Only those couples who forgive each other have long-term relationships. You should understand that no one is perfect. Both of you can make mistakes and the best way is to accept that fact. Let bygone be bygones. If you hold the past against one another, you will put the burning fire of love out. Enjoy your love and life as much as possible and forgive sins.
5. Laughing together is an essential thing: Good emotions, especially laughter can heal hearts and unite people. Laughter has the power to break inner barriers, tension and even fights the stress. A suitable joke can easily help you make it up with each other. According to the experts, laughter makes us live longer, producing useful hormones which slow down the process of aging. Moreover, it’s a wonderful way to stay positive and always be in good spirits.
6. Communicate clearly: You should realize that most people aren’t good at mind-reading. Many couples become disappointed with each other, because they just cannot read the mind of each other. Why do we need to read minds? It’s easier to communicate in a clear way. It will save you a lot of nerves and time. It’s normal to say what you want and there is no need to use puzzles while communicating with each other.
7. The sense of commitment: Commitment proves your love and shows how significant you are for your beloved. This way you show your feelings and desire to commit to only one another. When the value of commitment is available, you can rely on your partner. This is the core part of all relationships. Deeds, not words!

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15 Foods You Must Avoid If Planning To Have Sex

While we all know what we should be eating when it comes to getting turned on in the bedroom, we're not very sure which foods we should avoid.

'Our libido can be affected by a number of outside influences, from stress, tiredness, shift work, financial worries or simply working long hours.' Avoid some foods if planning to have sex.

1. Black liquorice

Liquorice intake has been linked to lower testosterone levels. The stronger the testosterone, the stronger the sexual desire, for both men and women, so maybe best not to have this as a sweet treat. 

2. Cheese

Dairy generally is a libido killer. For many dairy is congesting and mucus-producing, so not the ideal way to feel before sex!

3. Beans

'For some they'll feel full of energy after a bean-filled meal, for others they may feel sluggish or at worst bloated and even an increase in flatulence, so best avoided,' she explained.

4. Chocolate

Choose your chocolate carefully as not all chocs are bad. Go for dark chocolate that contains a minimum of 70 per cent  cocoa, as it will be the most nutritious way to consume this delicious, sensual food! 

'Dark chocolate is naturally high in many antioxidants, choose raw for the highest possible levels of naturally occurring nutrients. Chocolate is rich in L-tryptophan, which is a precursor to serotonin. 

5. Hot dogs

The high saturated content of hot dogs can clog up the vaginal and penile arteries, making this the least romantic handheld treat around. 

'All processed foods are a no for libido. Hot dogs are a very processed food in an overly processed bun that provides very little nutrition. Think about how you feel eating something like this. 

'You may feel sluggish and low in energy – not good for feeling sexy.

6. Peppermint

The menthol in peppermint has been shown to reduce testosterone levels, sending your sex drive plummeting. And while bad breath is a turn off, definitely do not chew gum as chewing brings more air into your system, making you prone to burp.

7. Tonic Water

This often contains quinine which is used as a flavouring agent in tonic water and some other beverages. 

'Quinine has been used as an anti-malarial agent, but it's been linked to a decrease in sexual function, so avoid before sex.

8. French fries

Again an overly processed food, that has a very high glycaemic index, meaning that this food releases its energy very quickly into our systems

'You may feel initially good on eating them, but pretty soon after, your energy levels will quickly slump, leaving you feeling low,' the nutritionist said.

'Plus you may not feel well if they've been cooked in bad quality oil, which may cause you to feel sluggish and even indigestion – all libido killers!

9. Red meat

It depends how you feel individually after eating meat. For some, it will energise them, providing them with iron, which will increase oxygenation throughout the body. 

For some people red meat itself may make them feel more 'animal'. 

For others, if they don't have good digestive function, or 'fire', then red meat may sit heavily in them, making them feel lethargic. So it depends on the individual.

10. Tofu

Tofu and soya products contain phytoestrogens, and eaten in excess, soy can decrease testosterone levels, so steer clear of tofu to keep your sexual desire high.

11. Canned food

Processed food, suspended in time, there for the long haul, but providing little nutritional value, plus energetically 'dead' food. This definitely won't increase your vitality, nor your sex life!

12. Red wine 

In moderation red wine may increase blood flow, whilst relaxing you and lowering your inhibitions. But only have it in small amounts, as you don't want to overdo it!

13. Oatmeal

May be good for you by helping to lower stress levels, and this is a roundabout way may increase libido, but aside from keeping you full energy-wise, oatmeal won't directly increase your libido. Plus the high fiber content can lead to gassy feelings. 

14. Energy drinks

These are often full of sugar and nasties such as artificial colours and flavours. They may give you an instant energy lift, which may increase endurance and stamina, but this may be short-lived.

15. Broccoli

While it can produce gas, broccoli is a wonderful vegetable that helps the body to naturally detoxify. 'Eating plenty of broccoli may have a positive effect on prostate health and may help prevent heart disease. A great food to eat to improve your hormonal health overall.'

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